But just go with it.) Would that be cheating? Both in this case and in the previous case I am seeking the services of a prostituted woman for sexual pleasure-seeking out and enjoying the body of a woman who is not my wife in order to be sexually gratified.Ĭould a man rightly say, “Yes, I pleasured myself in front of a hooker, but we didn’t touch each other. Step 2: However, let’s say that when I met with the prostitute we didn’t actually touch each other: I just watched her have sex with someone else while I masturbated in the same room. I assume no one would debate me on this point. Step 1: Let’s say I were to visit a prostitute and have sex with her. Take some steps with me down a morally slippery slope. This is because marriage is, in part, about sexual exclusivity it is about “forsaking all others.” The Slippery Porn Slope When I say “using” I mean intentionally taking porn in through one’s senses with the intention of being turned on and then, most likely, masturbating or at least getting sexually aroused.īy “cheating” I mean that using porn is breaking a vow-either implicitly or explicitly-made to one’s spouse.
It’s hard not to walk about in public places or go online without seeing something that is at least meant to titillate the eyes of men. I understand why many don’t think this is true (reasons I’ll address below), but first it is important that I define some terms.īy “using porn” I don’t mean merely seeing it. To them porn feels like cheating, and for good reason. Still, I get a lot of questions from women who are feeling the heartbreaking impact of porn on their marriages. I’ve heard it said that there are men who don’t look at porn, and then there are men who are breathing. If recent surveys are any indication, porn use has become the norm among men, not the exception.